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This has nothing whatsoever to do with You. Between trying to get boyhood needs met for nurturant attention, and his belief that he must love and respect his maternal tormentor, he continuously struggles to feel safe with attachment.

In particular, they tend to have difficulty knowing what they value, believe, prefer, and enjoy. Grown adults have the ability to connect intimately in other domains of their relationships spiritually, emotionally, cerebrally, etc. Resolving it, typically took hours.

Casanova's middle name is Rebound. Hyde split in behavior and demeanor is a dead giveaway, that you're involved with a borderline disordered male, and there's big trouble up ahead.

As absurd as this sounds, she was the more influential presence in his life. Self-sabotage is a huge piece of Casanova's picture, and may take the form of chronic ailments or frequent mishaps.

Loving Casanova is like trying to fill a bottomless pit. This was his method of shutting-down, and deflecting resolution. Impotence is fairly common among men with personality disorder features if they've become close to you emotionally, prior to having sex. An unstable family environment predicts the development of the disorder, while a stable family environment predicts a lower risk.

Whether he's made you cognizant of his boyhood wounds and deficits or not, you'll try to avoid stepping on any emotional land mines, you've intuited are buried in his past. He's extremely attentive at first, and wants to be with you constantly, which is like music to your soul. In my world, there's a humongous difference between psychotherapy and healing work. Stealing you away from somebody else can fuel a borderline male's ego, and ease his long-standing insecurities. Increased cortisol production is also associated with an increased risk of suicidal behavior.

We are in fact, magnitized to individuals who precisely match our own level of emotional development. Waif traits are common among men who live off the generosity or sympathy of females. So in essence, we're talking about two wounded individuals who can't accept themselves fully, or be emotionally whole and well. Along these lines, Borderlines may alter their identity. At the very least, your physical and emotional health will suffer.

Apparently, he'd needed me to desire him, to fortify his self-image. Projection is not exclusive to Borderline Personality Disorder. For this Borderline to begin tolerating love, success and a real sense of joy, there has to be a paradigm shift. While guesting on a web broadcast with Dr.

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In reality though, he wants you to refute his words, and convince him you'll stand by him, in spite of any financial or emotional setbacks you'll likely suffer. Anything else, is a manipulation. If you confront this and hold him accountable for his actions, he makes excuses, becomes rageful and projects his shame and self-loathing onto you.